I am no where near the application process of looking and searching for jobs as I am only a first year, but I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to apply for positions outside of the state you went to school in as this most likely will be a path I have to cross when I graduate!
It’s been sitting on my bookshelf for so long and I need motivation to read it!!!
About 1 year ago my brother started bringing his girlfriend around the family and having her hang out with us and come to family events. She is shy so at first I was understanding about her being quiet and not really conversing. My family and I thought that over time she would open up and get more comfortable around us… but she hasn’t.
My brother is extremely outgoing, so we are all surprised that she was so shy but never really said anything about it until recently. Even after a year of her coming over I can count the number of times her and I have had a conversation on one hand, and when she comes to the house she walks right in and sits on the couch without greeting anyone or anything. She can’t even go make herself a plate of food without having my brother get up with her. People in the family have made jokes about her not speaking unless spoken to, and me being the sister I have tried to talk to her but she always gives blunted responses. We try to get her to join in conversations but she always gives a minimal response. My mom has said that when she’s doing something around the house or hosting an event she doesn’t offer if she needs help or if she wants her to bring anything. My grandma on the other hand said she speaks to her sometimes but only after my grandma fires off question after question.
She also seems kind of bored all the time… my cousin brought her newborn baby around a couple months ago and everyone was smiling at her cute little baby sounds and she couldn’t even crack a smile. For holidays we will plays games and she makes an excuse saying she doesn’t like the games we are playing.
My mom finally brought this up to my brother and he said he has fought with her before about being more outgoing with us so that we dont have thoughts that she doesn’t like us, but nothing has changed.
I’m just trying to see a different perspective here, as someone also outgoing I don’t know what it’s like to be shy so I just ant to try to give her the benefit of the doubt.