Hi all,
My partner, who got sober from alcohol 8 months ago, has a few large amends to make, and some smaller ones, from their time in active addiction. These are people that we are both in community with, who I see once in awhile, and who I have many mutual people with.
My partner is great at making amends to me and owning their behavior in our relationship, but has been avoiding amends to others, and keeps pushing their timeline out for these apologies, mostly citing fear and lack of time to dedicate to amend-making. I am really struggling with this.
I don't want to issue an ultimatum for these as these amends aren't about me ultimately, but I also am really starting to resent the community implications of them not apologizing--we live in a very small town where most everyone knows each other. What is the best way to go about this? There's a part of me that wants to see my partner less while they work on these things.