I (24F) have been with my boyfriend (24M) for almost 2 years now. In the very beginning our sex life was amazing. We had sex 3-4 times a week, and if it were up to me that never would have changed. After about 2-3 months his desire to have sex with me dropped so much so that I noticed. (Which I expected as I know about the honeymoon phase) I sat down and talked to him about it and asked if it was something I was or was not doing and he said no that I’m perfect. He also said that he would put more effort into it, to which I thought everything would be fine. I thought that talking to him would help us both. Well it all went wrong the moment I said anything to him to begin with because all that did was lead him to withdrawal more from sex. Which, of course, lead to me trying harder. Which lead to a stalemate where we were having sex hardly at all (at least not nearly enough for me about 2 times a month) for around a year. This made me feel rejected and like I was just unattractive to him. He insisted (and still does) that he only has eyes for me and he adores me. I believe that, he’s wonderful in every other aspect. He doesn’t watch porn or masterbate alone. We tell each other absolutely everything and I trust him completely. He treats me so well except for this, but sex is so important to me. He has had his testosterone levels checked and he is completely fine. He stopped smoking weed about a year ago in an attempt to see if that was affecting him, and he is currently quitting nicotine to see if that helps.
However, now I have a much larger problem. I no longer get horny or want to have sex with him. I think my body shut down to him. I can’t even get wet when trying to do stuff with him anymore. I’ve always been a horny person and I used to be able to get wet in no time at all, but now it feels like a chore. I feel like I have to force myself to want sex with him. We always do the same boring foreplay and it’s just not doing it for me anymore. He eats me out but I don’t enjoy it anymore. It all feels forced even though he says it’s not. I think my body has checked out to save my feelings from being hurt more. How do I fix this? Any advice is welcome, I do not want to break up with him. I love him way too much.
TL;DR: lack of sex from my boyfriend over time has caused my sex drive to crash