u/Mateo-Shin-Shin — reddlx

Hi everyone, first time posting here - I am 29M, and just today, I asked my partner (30F) how she would feel if I were a femboy. Ever since high school, I have identified as a bisexual, though a closeted one. The idea of being a femboy always excited me, but I've always been to scared to act on my impulses... until now. I grew up with conservative parents, and as most conservative parents are, they would be unsupportive if I ever came out to them as it is unnatural for a man to love another man... too bad for them, I grew up being taught to "love one another," and I may have taken that a bit too literally.

My partner accepted my coming out as bi not too long ago, and I assured her that despite swinging both ways, I only had eyes for her, and she accepted me immediately, responding "is that all?" as if it never mattered. I believed immediately that I could be the person I was scared of being with this girl. When I finally worked up the nerve to lay it out plainly that I wanted to be a femboy, which was a painful conversation, I was met with confusion, discomfort, and fear: a fear of losing me.

She worried that this may just be the first step into a larger journey of self realization, and in the process, she would lose me

Maybe she worries that the next step is for me to admit I'm trans, and being a heterosexual (demisexual), she doesn't see herself being with another woman. I understand that completely, we actually talked about a similar situation quite some time ago as she had a friend who was trans and confessed their love to her. She accepted them for who they were, but she only saw them as a friend.

Trans, I am not - I am a bisexual male, and I am happy with that part of myself. I do wish I were thinner and had a big butt, and also wore cute clothes (who on here doesn't, right?). I just didn't think I'd be met with this much... reluctance? Thoughts?