u/MasterpieceNo7547

Hi everyone, I need some honest advice because I feel really confused.
I (19F) started hanging out with this guy (24M). We’ve only known each other for a short time, but things escalated really quickly. We’ve been seeing each other almost every day, texting a lot, and spending hours together.
The thing is – he’s really kind and attentive. He goes out of his way for me, shows up whenever I mention something, buys me things even when I tell him not to, and is generally very caring. When we hang out, we talk a lot, joke around, and it’s honestly a really nice vibe.
But there’s also physical closeness – like him sitting very close, putting his arm over mine, or even lying on me when we’re chilling. I didn’t really stop it because I’m a physically affectionate person and I like that kind of closeness, even with friends.
Here’s the problem:
I’m almost 100% sure he likes me, but I don’t like him in that way. I enjoy his company and attention, but I’m not physically attracted to him enough to want a relationship.
I’ve told him I don’t want a relationship right now and that I just want friends, but his behavior hasn’t really changed. He still puts in a lot of effort and wants to see me all the time.
Now I feel stuck because:
- I don’t want to hurt him
- I don’t want to lose the friendship
- But I also don’t want to lead him on
And I’m worried that my behavior (spending time alone, physical closeness, etc.) is giving mixed signals.
Is it even possible to stay friends in this situation?
And how do I set boundaries without ruining everything?
Any advice would really help.