I'm in my 30s and previously during my chubby days, I was asked if I'm my younger sister's mother (she's 4 years younger than me). Today, after 23 pounds loss, I was walking in the mall alone and I was called Ms 🤣 felt great
So I grew up with Pride and Prejudice and Emma and lots of romantic books and movies. I loved the main characters and wanted to be them. But as a chubby, not easy on the eyes kinda person, I never was asked out or flirted with. I thought if I lost weight or made myself better by having a good personality and so on, someone would be interested. I spent my whole teenage life not being asked out by a SINGLE person. So I lost weight, joined societies, tried to be social and so on. Still nothing
Anyway, I always thought it was probably because of my weird looks. I know everyone is beautiful in their own way but let's be honest, there are obviously pretty people and then there are people like me
When I started watching TOBS, I could finally relate to a character so well. As a spectacles wearing, not so pretty one among my siblings, I totally felt her. And man, the heartbreak of thinking someone is flirting with you, just to have them be engaged to your friend, that was totally my life incident. I had lost weight, a friend motivated me to be more social and I went to another friend's gathering. There were a few girls and one guy. I felt some sparks and came home and told my other friend that I could feel sparks and maybe this will be the first guy to finally ask me out. Only to realise he'd been secretly dating my friend who hosted the party. When Ann introduced Tom to Mary, I was transported to my early 20s
I was feeling so connected to Mary up until 2 guys were romantically interested in her. Yeah I read widely, yeah I lost weight and tried to look pretty, but there were no 2 guys fighting for me. Not even one :( the pain of never being chosen or asked out is so unbearable, even in my mid 30s. I was so sad that even Mary had 2 suitors and I had 0. Suddenly, I could no longer relate to her
I went to a new country in my early 20s, attended so many social events, participated in conversations, enjoyed reading and socialising and did everything I could. I did them mostly to have a good time and but also to have someone ask me out or be interested in me, like all my other female friends had experienced. Anyway, I have made peace with my looks and my personality isn't too bad. I'm reparenting myself and I bring myself on dates and I genuinely enjoy my company and actually prefer my own company and a few close friends these days. But the sting of never being asked out or have someone be interested in me is always there. I related so much to Mary up until 2 guys were fighting for her and it somehow broke my heart. I was hoping she would be single and happy. Needed to vent. Thank you for reading
Hello Internet friends
I was posting in Reddit a few months ago, I was 82.9 kilos, unable to run, unable to have the motivation to stop binge eating, unable to even look at myself in the mirror. But today, I was 72.9, 10 kilos exactly since the day I started changing my lifestyle, at the start of this year, and about 14 kilos in total, or about 31 pounds, at my heaviest postpartum. From yesterday to today, it's about a 200-gram loss, but just looking at that round number of 10 kilos loss just made me scream in joy. And I am just almost jumping up and down in joy
I have lost weight numerous times in the past, but it was always starving myself, losing weight for a wedding or graduation or important milestones. But now I am building healthy habits and genuinely not craving bad foods. The other night, my husband was very stressed and he offered to buy KFC, and old me would have been like, yes! But I was like, nope, if you wanna eat it, you can. I don't even feel like eating processed food. And so, the sustainable lifestyle change habits that I've done, I'm just so happy with it. And I am so thankful that I can share this journey with you guys because I am so shy to share this with the real people in my life😅