Should I go back to my province or join the rat race in the city?
Problem/Goal: Gusto kong i-pursue yung "corporate life" kasi parang yun naman yung “uso” ngayon? idk parang stable kasi, like start as an HR professional dito sa Cebu and see where my degree (BS Psych) takes me. Pero my soon-to-be husband wants us to move back to my province para mag-business and mag-settle for a simpler, stress-free life. I want to build my own name and career, pero ayoko rin naman maging cause ng stress sa partner ko na pagod na sa city life and personaly, ayoko rin naman sa city.
Context: I'm 23, fresh start pa lang. He’s 34, and honestly, nagawa na niya lahat, career-wise. He’s a Software Engineer earning really well, so money isn't the issue. Gusto niyang makisosyo sa business ng dad ko. He’s not materialistic. Gusto lang niya ng buhay na walang hassle, walang traffic, and chill lang. He finds that peace sa province. While, I’m the type na "not easily contented." I love the hustle. Natatakot ako na if uuwi ako agad, baka ma-stunt yung growth ko or ma-feel kong napag-iwanan ako.
Iniisip ko na yung mga compromises if ever mapilitan akong umuwi ng province. Hindi lang naman ako basta magiging disney princess dun, so I'm looking for other options. Ayoko din na umasa sa partner ko or sa dad ko, although they repeatedly assured me na no need na daw mag hussle kasi stable naman na daw.
Torn talaga ako. I feel like if I go back now, I’m skipping the "adulting journey" na pinangarap ko sa city. Pero if I stay, baka naman hindi kami maging happy ng partner ko in the long run.
What do you guys think? Should I give the province a chance, or should I stand my ground and work sa corporate muna kahit for a few years?