We both are in the relationship from past 2 years. We are so serious about our relationship and we both are working people and have to deal a lot of stress. I stay with my family and she stays alone.
The real problem is she is always scolding or cursing me for each and everything i do or do not!. For eg if i call her and ask if she had a lunch then she starts yelling at me unnecessarily that instantly pisses me off. If i was not able to call her due to peak work, which she is aware of, then the other day when i call her and ask hows it going, she starts with a very low voice and pretends as if she is not interested in talking to me. That makes me feel so bad and when i try to cheer up the mood, by bringing up any topic then she starts yelling again at me saying that i dont care for her and i only call her for name sake.
I always try to make things happy for her, but she is so nitpicking that she never appreciates what i do but often looks out what i miss and points them up and makes me feel bad. These days it is getting out of hands, i was genuinely so busy with my work, but still i was checking up on her through messages and Instagram reels. She never reacts to any of my reels and just sees them and ignores. Okay this is not a big point. But these days i’m so much cooked up with my job and having a lot of stress and sleepless nights. Her shift is also a night shift but at the eod very long day like 2am she calls me and expects me to have long conversations. Even after taking an hour and say Im asleep and need rest, she then again starts either yelling that i dont care or go into a shady mood the later on.
I explained that i cannot deal with this shit as am already going through enough in my life, but she keeps cursing and yelling at me and says she is doing that out of love on me and missing me. This doesn’t seem fare to me that breaking my heart every often for unnecessary reason and calling that as an act of love. One more important event that happened was, once i narrated a very bad situation about future if our jobs gone, to see how she reacts or supports me. She after few days almost dumped me saying her parents wouldn’t accept my match and also passed few abusive statements such as a woman shouldn’t marry a guy lower than her class. That really broke me but still i dont want to lose her and i assured her it wont happen and i said i loveher and want future with her. But again recently she started to piss me off with her arrogant attitude and ill behaviour. I tolerated to some extent and one fine day she yelled unnecessarily at me and i could take it. So i straight away told that i cannot sustain in this relationship and i ended conversation and blocked her everywhere.
Any advice what should i do next or how should i deal with this person? I have no expectations from her but just good understanding, she has unrealistic expectations for me being rich, giving her 24/7 attention.
tldr: girl has lots of expectations from a middle class boy and often scolds him for his actions and do not appreciate his efforts instead nitpicks his mistakes and make him feel bad.