This is a year old incident, back when I was in 10th grade. For context, my dad is transferred to a diff state since the last 3 to 4 years hence me and my mom live alone at home ( I'm a single child ). My parents were really concerned about how I'll tackle boards alone without joining a tuition or coaching centre. I always liked studying on my own and I knew 10th ain't that hard as much as people hype it. But my mom thought I needed guidance so she told an uncle who's like a family friend of ours to tutor me, only science coz by then I already used to go to a tuition for maths. He used to tutor students like me years ago, prolly a decade ago.. I was hesitant but went for it coz my parents were convinced I can't do shit on my own since my dad isn't here for guiding me. Tbh, I understood their concern but unfortunately, they made the wrong decision, I can't even blame 'em. The first day he came, he urged me to open the maths textbook and made me answer some questions, completely ignoring science, the reason he was being paid for. He only read stuff out and told me to study till some topic/do some questions (in science) until he comes 2 to 3 days later. For maths, since I was thorough with ncert from tuition itself, he started teaching me RD Sharma. I can't even call it teaching coz most of the times, he used to do a single question then told me to do the rest of them in front of him and gave me tons of hw. I got frustrated coz I couldn't understand how he was solving most of the questions, I had to do it all on my own. Meanwhile, my cousin brother came to our place after 10 years, he stayed for around 2 weeks. Obvi, we were hanging out and visiting tourist places or watching movies, it was literally summer vacation. That week, instead of 20 pgs of math problems, I could do like 10 pgs.. The way he lectured me that day and rudely asked when my brother is leaving so that I don't get distracted and study, I mentally decided this is the last day he's tutoring me. I ain't tolerating this. I'm sorry if the way I'm narrating this is not making sense, but I hope you understand at the end of the day I'm having to study science on my own and do tons of RDS math problems on my own too... he wanted to stress me out with the workload. Everyone has different study styles. I personally hated it when I was being pressurized for no valid reason, it def didn't help me in any way. I'll take pressure when I want to and when I need to. He was also very arrogant, if that wasn't obvious.
Another thing that bothered me was this incident: one day he explaining about discriminants, and for an example, he said: "to distinguish between equations that have solution and what kind of sol... we see the discriminants.. just like how you're a girl, to figure out you're a girl or to figure out someone's gender, we need to check them naked without their clothes, which is not a viable option.." I'm sorry, maybe I'm overreacting, but that man told this staring straight at me, when I felt that it was an unnecessary example and looked visibly awkward ( since he also took my example) but at the same time trying to not overthink about it and make it a big deal, he repeats that example once again in an attempt to get a response out of me.. either a nod or a yes or hmm.. that was weird and disgusting af.. Unfortunately, I couldn't tell about this to my mom, let alone my dad. I felt as if my parents would think I was exaggerating it. Somehow, I convinced my parents to not make him tutor me anymore. After a lot of major inconveniences, and a ton of phone calls between my dad and that unc, where he claimed that I don't even study.. mind you I got 95% in 9th grade ( def not worth a flex but does not prove his allegation either )..
Cut to today:
I got 97% in 10th grade. My mom recently met him n his wife in someone's housewarming ceremony. When she got face to face with him, she didn't have anything to say so she asked did you get to know about my daughter's result, to that he replied with a forced smile and, "Yeah, it's good." My mom came back home and told how forced it sounded. Ofc he ain't happy, what a surprise! There have also been so many instances where he subtly tried to dominate a simple interaction after he was removed as a tutor. His own son n daughter never studied with him, he used to trauma dump about that. Also, he's the kinda person to drink alcohol at a frickin' puja! Even in front of a temple inside the car..
TL;DR: Parents hired a family friend to tutor me for 10th boards because my dad lived in another state. He barely taught, dumped massive RD Sharma homework on me, got rude when I spent time with family during vacation, and made a weird inappropriate “checking people naked to identify gender” example while staring at me. Eventually I stopped the tuition, he told my dad I “don’t study,” and I still ended up scoring 97% in boards.