u/ManhattanShark

I (F 34) have been married to my husband (M 38) for 11 years. When we first got together he told me he did not believe in having straight friends of the opposite sex because someone would inevitably catch feelings sexual or romantic at some point. Although I did not share this belief, and he never asked me to. I stopped hanging with my male friends when we got married, out of respect for him. And for over 10 years we only had friends of the same sex, or couples friends. However back in 2024 we began having significant problems and he became very emotionally involved with a woman from work. He doesn't believe emotional cheating is a thing, and because she supposedly turned down his advances they did nothing wrong and are "just friends" I saw their messages where they not only made fun of and talked poorly about me but he was vulnerable with her an encouraging, Building her up in ways he never did with me and even though they "weren't together" he never missed a chance to tell her how amazing she is and how he would jump at any chance to be with her. Fast Forward to now we are in a better place and starting to heal, or at least trying to. Im Having a hard time because he still talks to her. Ive asked him to cut contact but he says I'm being controlling and jealous and it's ridiculous because I know she doesn't I want anything to do with him romantically. He claims he doesn't go out of his way to contact her but he's not gonna be rude and tell her to leave him alone or ignore her because I'm insecure. I never wanted to be a partner who was jealous or controlling over opposite sex friendships. But he was the one who originally told me he wouldn't have female friends and I didn't have male friends out of respect for him, but now he's telling other friends and family I'm trying to control his others relationships. Am I being a Jerk? Is my request unreasonable?

I've worked in customer service centers of one kind or another for over a decade. I love it and I am very good at my job. I typically do customer support for members of certain services like cable, Internet, mobile service etc. Those recordings at the start of your call that state "This call may be monitored or recorded for quality and training purposes" Those aren't just a heads up in case we randomly decide to record your call. We have multiple means of recording customer interactions via every channel and every representative you speak with can see your conversation with other agents. Lying and threatening a lawsuit not only means nothing to an hourly employee,.it also makes us laugh. Trust me if you have grounds for a lawsuit you won't be calling us, someone higher up who gets paid a hell of a lot more than I do will contact you first to try and head off the lawsuit. Otherwise if you need to threaten it you likely have no grounds and are putting yourself at risk for being placed on written correspondence only, try threatening to get someone fired with a pen and paper! intimidating? I think not!