Why are NT women so weird with friendship? Apparently you can't celebrate your own wins. Someone else has to do it for you.
I have noticed one of the weirdest dynamics about NT women is the whole only allowed to have someone else speak FOR you with successes and wins; you're not allowed to do it yourself or you're seen as selfish / proud / stuck up / over inflated.
Am I the only one who has noticed this? It's like if you say too much celebrating things in your life, you're considered really uppity and too confident.
So you are expected to deal with friend group dynamics so a friend can vouch for your win and speak for you for the win and *then* it's valid.
Well wtf. No? I feel like I have a good grasp on being fair with sharing my own things. I don't tie up too much conversation. I love to hear from other women. I love to celebrate their wins. But this thing bothers me a lot. I don't have the money for gas to spend time with friends for them to have content to share. I can't afford frequent friendship. I just have good friends but it's like individual because of not being able to often afford group things.
I notice it in my family group chat (which honestly has a lot of spectrum people in it)-
They only want to celebrate either certain people OR have it be someone sharing someone else's win or news and then it's vetted and worthy of celebrating.
It makes me thankful for friends who don't care about this crap and I don't either. I just have noticed the trend in a couple groups I know. How exhausting it must be to live like this