I'm 38f, he's 44m - we've been professional coworkers for a few years. I've been single since before I met him or joined the company. We got it off right away, so much chemistry, good vibes, laughs, ect. Problem, he's married, has kids, no drama, ect. I'm a wild child, free soul with no kids, no drama, ect.
Over the past few years, things got odd and to sum it up, i drifted away and ignored his indirect ways of trying to get me to say things to him - like control tactics to get me to try and get me to spend time with him, text him, call him, ect. I felt like it was disrespectful to over step my boundaries.
I went on a vacation, and he went to the dame place z same day, same time frame. He mentioned about maybe meeting up but I ignored him.
While gone I was blowing up my social media blogs and I met a guy friend there who i care about deeply (not romantic).
Then I stared to date someone but no one knew, he had no idea, so I'm guessing maybe he saw my social media? I mean, I'm free and single to do as I please, so what?
When I came back he was really weird to me, like borderline rude, frustrated and cocky.
The last few months pushed me to the point where I left the company. The last time we met at the office, he was so mean to me. He was saying things to me that was just uncalled for, trying to get me to say things for his ego, he didn't even say goodbye and was so cold to me. It feels like a bag breakup.
My friends think I ruined his fantasy, maybe hurt his ego, ect.
Why did he act this way? What does he want? Why not be direct? I don't engage with others who aren't direct. I need clarity and truth. This stuff turns me off . Which is why i started to distance myself.