My two bridesmaids ruined my wedding experience — and I removed them. Was I wrong?
My best friend "K" and her sister "M" were both in my wedding party. From the start, they were difficult. They shot down a bachelorette trip, refused to contribute to a bridal shower ("it's not tit for tat"), pushed for a brunch alternative they never planned, and no-showed to my bachelorette dinner. At my bridal shower, they arrived late, were disengaged, and left early — multiple guests noticed.
It got worse. They asked to arrive late on wedding day, disrupting a vendor timeline my planner and I had carefully set. When I explained I couldn't move anything with several vendors locked in, K revealed she was pregnant again and said they'd need to "leave for a couple of hours" mid-day. I asked why arrangements hadn't been made and also why. Her response: "Just cancel us for hair and makeup; we can't be there that early and be expected to stay the whole day."
Twenty-two days before my wedding.
I removed them from the wedding party. For context, I did everything for K's wedding and spent generously doing it.
Now I'm short on my hair and makeup minimum, our friendship is clearly over, and I haven't heard a word from either of them. I'm not expecting an apology, but am I wrong for how I handled this? And is it irrational to at least expect some acknowledgment?