confused about sexuality and how to explain it to others?
Hoping some people here can give me some insight into this.
I’m definitely a primarily hetero guy, very secure in my attraction to women both in fantasy, irl, sexually and romantically. With men I don’t know. I fantasize about men frequently and enjoy it, but anytime I’ve tried to be with a guy I’m super out of it. I just dissociate completely and do not enjoy it at all and feel gross afterwards. I could definitely not see myself dating a man in a romantic sense. At the same time I don’t generally believe it’s impossible for me to meet a man who I love and want to be with, could happen. I love to fantasize about men, sometimes from the perspective of being a woman even.
I guess I’m a bit more feminine or something because people often assume that I’m gay. I find myself having to explain to people pretty often that i’m not, especially I worry that women i’m interested in think I’m gay. But I have no idea how to actually explain this simply to people. I feel like i’m lying by telling them I’m straight because I totally fantasize about men sexually. But I feel like I’m lying by telling them I’m bisexual because I don’t seem to actually like being with men. I feel like I have to explain something though because no one likes being misinterpreted as a person. Is there even some way I can signal to people that i’m not just gay?
This is probably so silly but it’s really been weighing on me and confusing me.