u/Mammoth-Throwaway-38

An anniversary of death is coming up soon and I normally pray in my mother tongue with a few arabic duas, but this year I wanted to do lots of arabic duas as well.

If anyone can keep them in their prayers I would appreciate it. It was my cousin and her mother. They were incredibly kind people, I know everyone says that about the dead but it’s actually true. They were insanely generous and kind, and just had this way of making you laugh, like my favourite memory of them is over the dinner table and my stomach was so full because my aunt insisted on feeding us til bursting and my cheeks hurt because I was laughing with my cousin. I still cry when I miss them even now, it’s not often but I just wished I had told them how much I loved them and being around them before they died.

Just for reference, I am talking about non-congregational prayers

I will probably delete this shortly because I am quite embarrassed to talk about my mental health but I have ADHD, but more significantly I have CPTSD and the way that manifests is when my symptoms get worse, anong other things, I get very jumpy. Basically loud noises can scare me to tears, which is very embarrassing but also makes salah hard. In other words I get distracted easily and on days like today, when my symptoms are worse, I get scared very easily, to the point of interrupting or stopping my salah.

ANC headphones work better than earplugs, background noises like rain work best to cover sound but I am aware that’s probably not permissible. I have done everything else to manage my symptoms (alhamdulillah I have lots of coping mechanisms and skills) but the noises come through my window even when it is closed and literally scare me out of my skin.

I couldn’t find any concrete rulings by googling so if anyone could direct me to anything I would appreciate that. Jazakallah

Is there a traditional muslimahs subreddit?? Anyways I wanted to know if anyone had any advice for this. Especially if you are a woman with a bigger bust or hips, there is a genuine upper limit to how baggy your clothes can be without becoming completely impractical (or alternatively, if you are trying to dress simply, it’s very difficult to dress in baggy clothes without a LOT of extra fabric which just looks excessive).

It’s even worse if you are disproportionate. My friend has a larger hips than the rest of her which means abayas, which are always one piece, that cover her hips do not fit around the chest and vice versa.

The closest thing I have found is wearing a maxi skirt and then wearing a long top above it (and obviously your khimar above that) but I’m wondering if anyone has any better alternatives because if you are doing anything like even shopping or running afterkids you end up tangled in your many layers of fabric or very warm.