Choosing Bridesmaids. How do you do it? If you are questioning someone, should they be included?
I have planned my bridesmaid proposal in a few weeks. I have been putting together their gifts since November and they are personalized abbode bags! Back in November when I placed the order with abbode, i had planned for 1 MOH 3 bridesmaids, at the last minute i ditched getting one for 1 of the bridesmaids. Im not really sure why i hesitated but i said i could always buy it when the time comes.... fast forward i have been collecting items they use frequently and putting boxes together.
i got dinner with this friend that i nixed last week and she made some comments to me alluding to her seeing if she was in the party, without asking. It put a thought in my head that maybe i should be including her. we've been friends for almost 10 years and she is like a sister to me. I value her opinion and our friendship a lot, and i think she feels the same. she was invited to my surprise proposal & engagement party but didnt come because she had prior engagements (im not sure the full details). she does little things like that where i dont feel the loyalty i would hope. BUT she is like my sister and i will always be friends with her. shes coming to my bach & my bridal shower among other girls not in my party.
my current group MOH + 2 bridesmaids are my TRUE ride or dies. they know everything and are the most supportive people. every year for my bday i do a weekend getaway so all of us have already gotten close. the friend i nixed never came (i stopped inviting her after year 2) because her other friend has a shore house & they would go there.
TLDR - how do you choose a bridesmaid? am i overthinking it? Have you ever regretted not including someone or including someone when you shouldnt?
My fiance has 6 groomsmen & i would have 3 FYI