u/MamiMaki

Dinagsa ako kanina ng mga transphobic sa isang subreddit because I called out the OP for being transphobic to a transwoman coworker na he’s upset and ranting about. Na-trigger lang ako ng sobra sa inis dahil sa mga nakita kong sinasabi ng iba don, coming from both men and fellow women, tapos yung iba may trans friends pa kuno pero transphobic padin naman. I really don’t understand why it’s still so hard for the PH society to embrace our trans brothers and sisters, lalo na when the Indigenous Filipinos had such high regard and respect for them.

The LGBT was not a marginalized group during the pre-colonial times. The Babaylans (women) and the Bayoguins (gay and trans) served as shamans and community leaders. They were highly respected and there was same-sex marriage. Nawala lang lahat yun after the Spaniards arrived. Tapos ngayon look at us, 128 years na tayong free from their imperial rule pero hindi padin tayo makawala. It feels so hopeless whenever I see how backwards padin talaga mag-isip mga tao sa PH. For a country that is so western and foreigner obsessed, hindi man lang magawang magkaron ng acceptance for diversity.

TLDR: Napaka-dami padin talagang transphobic sa Pilipinas eh anong petsa na. Gigil nila ako sobra.

I have a non-verbal daughter who is in 2nd grade. She’s in a special education class with a great teacher and an equally great staff. She also has OT and SLP in school, and we’ve seen so much progress with her. I appreciate them all so much. My daughter didn’t talk at all until she started school. She’s vocalizing more now and can finish a sentence when prompted, has gotten used to the routine of doing schoolwork, and has finally started echolalia. She was awarded as the most improved student last year.

Yesterday during pickup, the teacher talked to me regarding next year and her idea for my child to switch schools to go to another program. She’s supposed to switch classrooms with a new SPED teacher for 3rd grade anyway, but her current teacher who has been with her from 1st to 2nd grade thinks that pushing my daughter a little bit more would help her since most of the kids in their program do not talk and are taught life skills. It got to a point that my daughter finishes all of her tasks before anybody else does and starts acting up, since she has a habit of seeking attention through disruption, which the teacher believes could be due to boredom. Another student from her class moved to that same program this year, and now she thinks my daughter is ready for that program. It’s still all up to me, but that’s her advice. I trust her judgement.

The new school is relatively close. Her current school is 5 minutes away from us, and the new one would only be 10 more minutes away. That’s a non-issue since we can always arrange transportation. I understand that they’re trying to move my daughter into a more competitive environment, where other students around her are more likely to communicate. I want her to thrive and be given the right tools for it, but I’m worried that my daughter might regress due to the new environment and the additional demands. Has anyone have any experience or advice on this? I know that she’s smart and capable. I wholeheartedly believe in her abilities, but I’m terrified that she might get left behind if it doesn’t work out as planned.