What Do I Do?
This may be a long post but I need some objective insight.
I had been helping my sibling to care for my parents until last fall. Up until that point the care had focused on my mom because she has dementia. However, my dad had to be hospitalized in October and during that hospital stay, scans they took indicated cancer in two separate areas of his body. Since that time he has had only one other medical test and it was not on either of the organs where the ER docs thought cancer was present.
Since then I’ve been pushed out of anything regarding his healthcare and pretty much cannot visit my parents at all. I’m not getting any updates. My mom will not let me visit because we had a blowup argument the day he went to the ER. She also has dementia so she is not really thinking clearly about anything. I’ve tried to talk to her a couple times, but cannot have a rational conversation with her. After the argument with my mom, my sibling basically took that opportunity to turn her against me and push quack healthcare advice to both my parents (think MAHA, vaccine skeptic, etc.)
I’m convinced they are getting bad advice from my sibling and am worried that if my dad does in fact have cancer, this 8 month delay in treatment may kill him. My dad is still fairly sharp mentally and I think he understood what they were telling him at the hospital. At his age, I would not blame him if he didn’t want to undergo cancer treatment but I think that should be his decision and one based on sound information.
Do I have any recourse here? I’m so angry at being excluded from this and not being able to see him and I feel so helpless. Any advice would be much appreciated.