Why did it work before but not now? Manifesting a SP (friend)
I’d really appreciate some insight from a manifesting/SP perspective because I’m a bit confused.
Back in 2021, I dated a guy I ended up liking a lot (which is rare for me). After about 3 months, he broke up with me, and I later found out he had started seeing another girl.
At the time, I was very triggered. I was constantly checking his social media, feeling anxious, crying, and reacting to everything I saw. I tried a lot of manifesting techniques to get him back, but nothing really changed. Eventually, I just gave up and started removing Instagram on and off so I could detach and focus on myself.
Then in June, I noticed he had unfollowed me, which made me feel like the connection was completely gone. I accepted it and unfollowed him too.
But before this Christmas, he randomly requested to follow me again. I was really confused. I ended up asking him why, and he texted me saying I’d been on his mind the whole time and that he wanted to stay in touch. He even asked to meet up, but at that point I told him I had moved on.
Around that time, I also reconnected with a friend I’ve always had a hot-and-cold dynamic with. I ended up spending Christmas and NY with him and we ended up sleeping together. He was the first guy I’d been with since my ex, so I think I got more emotionally involved than expected.
I knew he wasn’t fully over his ex, but we stayed in contact. He even sent me a “miss you” message 3 weeks ago.
Then about two weeks ago, I reached out about a recent health scare that affected both of us. There had already been some stress around that earlier this year. He replied initially, but after I followed up, he stopped responding completely.
What confuses me is that when I was very attached before, nothing happened… but when I let go, my ex came back. Now I’m trying to do the same with my friend, but I miss him and the connection we had (we used to send memes all the time).
So my question is: why did it “work” when I let go before, but not now? Is it attachment, self-concept, or something else in how I’m approaching this?
I’m not looking for “just move on” advice—I’m more curious about the manifesting dynamics here.
I just miss my friend.