How to be yourself in a world full of feelers?
I need some productive advice.
I (30f) work in a nonprofit full of feelers. Most of my family is feelers. As a woman, most the people I could make friends with or interact with at the store are feelers.
My entire childhood, I got to be my authentic Te dom self but I kept running into the same issues with adults punishing me for “talking back” or being rude. I started to keep more to myself, not be as expressive, and not be myself. Despite that, I still ran into problems. I had women whose feelings I accidentally hurt (politely said I didn’t want to make friends at work) go after me and lie to my boss to get me fired.
Right now my supervisor is grey rocking me at work because of her feelings (my therapist says she’s probably insecure because I’m making her look bad). Most people would love to work from home and have nothing to do for days on end, but it’s literal torture for me.
I can’t even go to the store or the bank or the library without someone getting their feelings hurt because I didn’t make eye contact enough or smile at them. It’s like 24/7 having to deal with feelings.
Does anyone have any advice that isn’t “fuck them, let their feelings get hurt” (always backfires on me) or codeswitch and speak “feeler” 24/7?
I just want to work and be productive and I can’t because I’m swimming in feelings that aren’t even mine.