Hey Dad I’m getting married on Thursday and I wish you were here.
I got engaged to the love of my life while in my second semester of my masters program in 2024 and we are having our legal ceremony this Thursday. My partner and I have been together since junior year of high school when we met at summer camp. My dad encouraged me to pursue this relationship and even drove me the 12 hour drive to see him.
When my dad started dating his current wife (the person he also had an affair with my mom on) he got mean and that culminated in me having to cut contact because having a relationship with him had caused my mental health to significantly decline. I have PTSD because of this situation. I have been no contact for four years and he doesn’t understand why I cut him off even though he has been told that he caused me to relapse with self-harm 4 years ago. Even though I hate him I still have so much grief around him not being at my wedding. I was supposed to get walked down the aisle by him and dance with him. It hurts so much and I just need to be told it’ll be ok.