u/Luna_92573

Aside from the understandable over-sexualization of femboys, which is not exactly a black and white issue, I keep seeing a bunch of hate posts/comments in other lgbtq+ subreddits, even seen trans people hating on femboys for some reason. It seems like the whole idea of what a femboy is, is kinda misunderstood. It’s super unfortunate

Hello all! Kinda new to reddit, and new to this community, I'm in my early 20's, v tall and fairly skinny, i feel like ive always tried to put on some level of masc image, or i guess really trying not to seem effeminate, i think because of societal reasons and not wanting to, for lack of a better term "seem gay" (absolutely nothing wrong with being gay ofc just society thinks femininity = gay)

im fairly introverted, but for shits and gigs was talking around a little bit online and had a girl tell me i was cute and effeminate as a compliment, and it really kinda twisted my whole way of thinking. I started thinking more about how embracing femininity doesn't have to be a bad thing, and i realize a lot of straight guys are worried more about how they look to other guys than girls even.

The more i thought about it, i started recalling random memories over the years, not often, but occasionally i would have a vivid dream where i either had long hair, or was in fem clothes of some kind. I almost always would wake up and kinda be just kinda try to push it down/away, although those dreams were usually pretty happy dreams. I had no idea what was up with the dreams, but as a tall guy who worked blue collar, loves guns and cars, and lives in the south, i thought it was not something i needed to be thinking about. I even remember painting my nails for fun a few times as a kid, and it was really fun, but even as a child i can remember my parents not being sure how to feel about it. But i remember it actually being really fun/cool feeling.

I don't think i would ever be doing it, if i didn't think i could actually somehow look kinda cute dressed up fem. But after that compliment i got i was like sheiiiiiit, maybe i should embrace it a little, if girls can feel good about themselves looking cute why cant guys? So i think imma try some makeup and fem clothes, and see how it makes me feel. Not sure if i could ever tell my family though, i would hate to disappoint my parents.

Any tips for new/aspiring femboys would be awesome!

As much as gender norms have changed a lot over time, I still feel like men having painted nails is still really frowned upon, at least in the south. I’d love to have my nails painted even just black but I don’t wanna worry about being judged, mainly by people who I already know/care about, I could care less about everybody, but I would hate for friends or family to judge me for it, kinda funny I read Babylon warriors wore nail color to signify status, why can’t a guy wear some nail polish for himself if he wants to? Any advice for what to say to someone like my roommate or mom asking me about it?