AITA for no longer wanting to interact with my boyfriend’s cousin after years of uncomfortable behavior?
I (F late 20s) have been with my boyfriend for a few years. Overall our relationship is good, but there’s one thing that has been bothering me for a long time involving one of his female cousins.
She has this habit of constantly bringing up exes, old flings, people who used to like someone, or random comments about attractive girls during completely normal conversations. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes it’s very blunt, but it happens often enough that it becomes uncomfortable.
The thing is, she doesn’t stop even when people tell her to. There was even one time she got into a screaming match with her own brother in front of everyone because she kept bringing up HIS ex repeatedly after he already asked her multiple times to stop. So it’s clearly not just me noticing the behavior.
She’s also very loud and obnoxious in general and openly talks about entertaining exes despite having a current partner herself. She casually brings up old flings and people who still want her like it’s funny or cute behavior. I think that’s part of why her comments bother me so much. It feels like she genuinely doesn’t understand boundaries in relationships.
To be fair, my boyfriend does call her out whenever she says something inappropriate and he has defended me multiple times. He never entertains the behavior. But despite being corrected by different people over the years, she still continues.
Part of me feels like maybe I’m being too sensitive because technically she’s never done one massive terrible thing. But at the same time, years of repeated comments and uncomfortable behavior really add up.
AITA here?