Am i being unreasonable for wanting my living expenses to be evenly shared between me my gf and possible roomate?
My girlfriend and I recently decided we needed more space and started looking at places to move. My grandfather’s neighbor is trying to get someone to take over their lease on a house, and honestly it seemed perfect to me. It’s closer to my work and closer to town in general, so I’d spend less on gas and commuting. I also just generally prefer living in a house over an apartment because I like having the extra freedom and space.
The issue is that my girlfriend wants a different apartment instead. The apartment is about $100 more expensive per month before additional fees, and it’s on the opposite side of town from my job, which would add at least a 20-minute drive for me every day.
On top of that, she offered her coworker (who also happens to be my best friend’s younger brother) a room without talking to me first. I don’t dislike him, but it bothered me that the decision was made before I was even asked how I felt about having a roommate.
Right now our finances are split where I pay the full rent ($675/month) and she covers utilities, which usually run around $200–300 total.
Because of all of this, I told her that if we move into the apartment she wants and bring in a roommate, then I want all rent, utilities, and fees split evenly between the three of us instead of me continuing to shoulder most of the housing cost.
She feels like I’m being unfair and giving her an ultimatum. From my perspective, I don’t want to pay more money for a place I don’t really want, farther from my work, while also adding another person to the living situation that I didn’t agree to beforehand.
Am I being unreasonable here?