Boyfriend’s dad passed away today, and don’t know how to proceed other than just loving him.
Hi, I’m a 38 year old male, been in a relationship with this guy, “Alex”(Male, 35), for about 6 months now, but have been talking for about a year and a half. When I first met Alex, I kinda got the feeling, later confirmed, that he and his father weren’t exactly close, and that his father would be either devastated or angered at the thought of Alex being bisexual or gay.
Last night, after a quick diagnosis (3 weeks ago), his father passed away from a very swift battle with cancer. Alex, is of course, devastated himself by this loss.
I had never known my father growing up, he was never in the picture. I lost my mother at the age of 17, my grandmother 3 years ago, and my grandfather just 6 months ago. I know about family loss, and I know what he sorta feels right now.
The only major downside: I’m an over the road truck driver, and I go back into service this afternoon.
I feel so useless, not being able to be there to physically hold him, and comfort him, and tell him things may not be okay now, and they may not even ever be okay, but that he is loved. All I want to do right now is call my company and tell them that I’m taking a couple more days off to actually hold my boyfriend and to reassure him.
I just feel so, ugh!!! Any help?!