u/Low_Notice_4139

I (F18) have been living in the dorms at college and I’m going home for the summer in a couple weeks. My mom has always been difficult, and she’s gotten more difficult as time has gone on. She has problems drinking and getting blackout drunk both at home and at family gatherings. I have a sensitivity to her drinking because my dad (parents are divorced) is a recovering alcoholic and I have some bad memories from that. She has a new boyfriend who she brought over after dating him for less than a month. He basically lived on our couch for the weekend I was visiting home. He was drinking a lot too. She doesn’t go anywhere without him now. If I want to see her, I also have to see the boyfriend. She also fostered a dog without getting anyone’s opinion on it (including my brother (14) who still lives with her) and on a weekend I was home I had to watch him and clean smeared shit out of his kennel because she was at work. There’s so many bad memories I have that I’ve never expressed to her because it’s just not worth the fight, but now I’m just always angry when I’m around her. I don’t know if I can go another summer letting her pretend she’s a good mom and play house when she feels like this. I know I sound bitchy and entitled, advice welcome.