AITAH for talking to her like that?
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My ex and I were together for 8 months and honestly our relationship was great before college started. Then we ended up in different colleges and had to do long distance.
At first everything was fine, but over time she started getting very close to some male friends in college. She called them besties and said they were just friends, but I became uncomfortable with it. We started arguing about it often.
I accept that I handled some situations badly. One day during an argument I told her something like “today someone may touch you casually, tomorrow they may expect something else.” I said it harshly and I immediately regretted the wording. She felt like I was questioning her character and she was like" i am done!!!!"
The next day I messaged one of her female friends just to ask if my ex was eating/sleeping properly because I was worried about her. Later that day my ex posted a story with one of those male friends and they looked very close in it. Since the breakup was fresh, I assumed they had already moved on together or “patched up.”
I asked her friend about it and her friend got angry and told me that they are friends don't assume things this is why she left you and all
Later that night my ex actually texted me saying she felt touched that I checked on her through her friend, and she was even thinking about getting back together. But when I mentioned that I thought she already got close with the other guy, she got hurt again because she felt I still didn’t trust her. After that we ended things completely.
Now I genuinely don’t know whether I was protecting my relationship boundaries or just becoming insecure and controlling because of long distance.
I really felt very bad I regret it soo much am I too possessive?
AITAH?