Victimhood
Many of you will encounter the following sentiment if you chance a step into some of the mainstream “lesbian” spaces:
*Genital preferences are perfectly acceptable but if you loudly proclaim them you are hurting people’s feelings and probably suffer from unpacked transphobia.*
First of all: it’s not a genital preference. We don’t choose our sexuality, nor could we fall back on penis if our “preference” wasn’t available. Saying this is homophobic.
Secondly: what about the countless examples we see (and have uselessly reported and screenshot) where someone says: “most lesbians want penis”, “you’re a transphobe if you don’t consider penis”, “if you object to penis you need to examine your biases”, “you’re a vagina fetishist”, “penis on HRT is just like pussy and you should try it”, “wait until you try penis!”, “if you like strap, you like penis - I have an organic one!”.
So. Coming from a lesbian who has been told “I’m probably bi and should try dick”, “I haven’t found the right dick yet”, “I need a real strap”, “I’m just misandrist”, “liking masc lesbians means I actually want a real man”. -
I’d like to ask:
Why is this hurtful, homophobic content allowed to go unchecked and approved, propagating itself through our spaces without any consideration of OUR feelings and OUR struggles against homophobia and discrimination - the kind we have been relentlessly forced to endure all our lives?
I’m sure we’ve all seen the meme “tr*ns rights means we get to come in your wombs”.
Why do we have to be exposed to TRAUMATIC, THREATENING content that is not only coercive but implies our sexuality is wrong?