First let me explain our situations. I am 49 and have been out of the dating game for 14 years so I'm very rusty. She is 52 and has been two years since her last serious relationship. She tells me that she is used to dating jerks and assholes and it "freaks her out" that she is attracted to me because I am not what she is used to as I am kind hearted, patient, calm, stoic, easy to get along with, have a goid job, college educated, financially stable, have no vices, have no debt, and am not a criminal- all her words. Apparently those qualities in a man freak her out.
Ok, that being said, we have been seeing each other for a couple of months. I have noticed, over time, that I always text her first every day. Today I am holding off to see if she even texts me at all. But the main reason I am asking for advice is this... she has her own weekly routine. She works a M-F 8-5 job, just like me. Our designated dates nights have been Saturdays and Mondays as she has commitments the rest of the week (nothing crucial- workouts and family movie nights). A few days ago she told me that she is canceling our Monday date night because she is going to take a Zumba class instead because she really likes the teacher. Now, she already goes to a Zumba class on Wednesday nights and she will continue to attend that class. Im all for one bettering themselves. But I would like to see my girlfriend more than just one time a week when we live and work just a few miles from each other. She said she wanted to take things slow, which is fine, but this seems like a step backwards being two months in. I workout 5 days a week and go very early in the morning before work so I can be free to do things after work. Now, two months in to the relationship and I am being relegated to once a week. Also, I have noticed that I have paid every single cent of our dates, meals, entertainment, everything. I dont mind because I can afford it and like being around her. But just once it would be nice if she would make an effort or even suggest that she would cover a single bill. Last Saturday I spent almost $200 on dinner alone, then another $165 on entertainment.
Should I continue this and just get over it and be happy about it? Or should I seriously reconsider the relationship, and try to find someone else that would appreciateme more? I have a feeling I know what the answer is. Or am I just being a jerk for wanting to see her more than just on Saturday nights?
14 years out of the game and need your advice!