Knew my wife for 8 years, dated for 5 married for 3. She had both an emotional affair and physical affair for a month. I thought I was the best husband I possible could be to her. We never had any issues with our marriage. Stable life, we are both ambitious. I own a business and she’s in med school. We are sexually compatible. We met when we were young and 18 now I’m 26. I caught her and was the one to confront her. She regrets it. Was super remorseful. We separated spaces. She has been a mess. Says she doesn’t even know who she is anymore. I have been stone cold and very hurt. I supported her and gave her a life to only worry about studying and handled all the bills, housing, savvy with business basically everything. I still don’t understand what even caused her to do it. Do I try and reconcile or just leave. I have been wrestling with this for several weeks. The only thing that has given me comfort is the prince of peace. Has there ever been a successful reconciliation?
UPDATE:
First and foremost, thank you for everyone’s insight. I wanted to say that I’m listening to the advice given. I am very grateful for the support. I found an attorney to get what is fair and I don’t feel bad about it. I will get a postnuptial for any damages that have accrued during her time in med school. The most
Positive way I can look at this is to reflect on who I have become during my time with her. Yeah it it was 8 fudgin long years, but as a byproduct I have become a better man. Prepared. Even more ready for children. Stable. Wiser and even more prepared and experienced for the next women that comes into my life, Lord willing. The reason? She basically told me she was bored with the marriage. Was hard to hear, but I never felt that way. Some things aren’t just worth saving that’s a job for Jesus and so ultimately I’m going to walk away from this marriage and start over. I still have all my savings. I will make sure she doesn’t get a penny of that. I still have my properties that I bought previously before her. I will make her pay for her own attorney. If you are going through this, just know that you are not alone. I have found so much peace in putting my hope in Jesus instead of people. The only thing I have left during the despair was him and he actually took away my pain and sorrow away I hope everyone that is struggling with this finds the right path for them, but I think this might be the closest we can get to a happy end. The person I love before is not the person that I know now know and I have come to understand that. Time to let go. Let God.