I am a 25M recent medical graduate. This involves : myself, Angela (my ex-girlfriend turned best friend of 5 years), and Samay (my best friend of 6 years).
Angela and I dated years ago, but we broke up due to religious and family differences. We mutually agreed to stay best friends, and that actually worked for a long time. Samay was the guy I trusted most in the world. And also a best friend of mine and Angela’s(pragathi)
After graduation 4 of us with a common best friend(pragathi) went on a trip. Throughout the trip. they were teasing each other, which caught me off guard because I didn’t think they were close. Me and pragathi felt like third wheeling.
On the last night when me and samay were alone He looked straight at me and told me he considered her a "sister" and that's just how he is with his female cousins. Like a complete idiot, I believed him. Angela never told me she has feelings for him, but everyone can see she has a soft spot for him. I thought like a mad guy
She’ll get hurt so I was giving hints like “he doesn’t see you like that he probably sees you as a sister figure”.
Less than 5 days later, Angela calls me and asked if I have any issue in talking
To him, I said no.( I sad I don’t have an issue what you do in your personal life) Why would I? She never told she’s gonna confess to him and I was thinking all along it’s never gonna work out cuz he sees her as sister. She also said later she has “something” towards him and thinks she has towards her too(broke my heart).
Two days later I part from them coming to my hometown and it was sus little how samay not picking calls and stuff and I understood something’s going on. A junior randomly calls for something and says he saw these both at midnight together walking. When I asked Angela if she has something to tell me and she told yes. And told. It was a long conversation. While in the conversation I asked the time when she was in relationship with me, was it real? Did she have feelings for me? I just wanted an honest answer. And she gave it…. She
Thought she had but never did….hearing that broke my heart. She also said she had feelings for samay all along. What was more painful than this is samay confessing back. If it was someone else I wouldn’t have had any issue but since it’s him I can’t take it.
I’m furious. I was manipulated by my best friend who used the "sister" lie to keep me from catching on and dint even tell she confessed which was even before I left to my hometown.
I thought it over a hundred times to forgive him and he said sorry too. But I can’t. I contacted her to delete all pics of me and same for him as well but I told him to delete my contact as well and I blocked him on insta too, I told this to Angela and she unfollows me in Instagram. And also tells me not to contact her anymore.
for going no contact, asking them to delete my photos/contact info, and refusing to play along with their narrative? Is "taking space" really "running away," or am I just setting a necessary boundary? Am I the bad guy? Am I overreacting?