Am I Taking This Too Personally?
For the past 3 months, my friend kept telling me she wanted to come to my graduation. I told her the exact date and time multiple times, reminded her more than once, and even figured out a plan where we could both stay with my grandparents since my parents don’t let people stay over. I also went through the process of getting the tickets arranged, so this was never some unclear or last minute plan. What made this even bigger for me was that this was my college graduation as a disabled student, something I genuinely never thought I would live to see happen for myself. Then 4 days before graduation, I texted her to confirm everything and she goes, “Oh I forgot the day so I scheduled a doctor’s appointment.” That honestly upset me because I had been talking about the date for months and I even have screenshots showing that. It made me feel like something this important to me just was not important enough for her to actually keep track of. I know she has health issues going on and I understand that appointments can matter, so I’m not trying to act like her health is irrelevant. At the same time though, after months of saying you’ll be there for someone during a major life event, backing out at the last minute changes how you start viewing the friendship. Especially because this was not some casual plan that could easily be moved around. Now I honestly don’t know how to respond because I don’t want to be rude to her, but I also feel really hurt and kind of just want space for a while. She has important things coming up in her own life too, and part of me feels conflicted because I would never want her to feel the way I felt here.
I guess im asking would you personally feel hurt by this, or would you just brush it off and move on? I also don’t know whether taking some distance for a little while would be immature or completely reasonable after feeling this hurt.