I attend an out of town networking club for professionals and wasnt really looking to meet ppl romantically but after months of being a regular another regular asked if me and another regular called "J" are into each other and being confused I asked what they meant. They went onto say theres definitely vibes there and J seems interested.
I was surprised but went onto talking to J more to see if it was true. Flash forward to weeks and weeks later and J talk all the time at the events. It went from both of us socializing separately with all the regs now we just only talk with each other. Theres been flirting but he hasnt done anything about.
What i do know is hes single, works long hours, definitely thinks im attractive, chivalrous, really considerate (southern gentleman values), always checks in with me, thinks im funny, quick to defend me etc.
So I've always assumed he was interested but shy but the other day we were talking and he said hes very direct and not shy. Which I think made me think if he was interested he'd have made the move by now but hasnt. But yet hes aleays focused on me and randomly started asking me questions as if he was trying to figure out if we mesh like he asked what type of guys im attracted to and thise types of things.
Yesterday he misunderstood me and he thought I was quitting the club and had a subtle look of panic on his face but seemed relieved when I corrected him. He also has my number but very rarely reaches out to me that way and hust waits until he sees me at the events.
So what is this? Interested but likes taking things slow, friend zoned or what?