u/Low-Surprise-4008

I’m a FTM and my LO is 8 months old. We’ve been cosleeping since birth and it has been going good. We try to set her down in our bed around 7/7:30, since that’s where she sleeps at night and she wakes up in her bassinet/crib almost immediately. After putting her down for the night we get maybe an hour before she wakes and we will resettle her but it’s not an easy pat/snuggle/rock back to sleep and she usually fights it and we spend a minimum of 30 min of trying to get her sleep and sometimes it even takes hours. She used to be better about going back to sleep after she got over the brutal 4 month regression but it seems like she’s in a constant regression or teething so it’s hard to navigate. I, myself, cannot transfer her out of my arms because she wakes up the second her body shifts from mine but she won’t usually settle with my husband so I’ve been getting her to sleep in my arms then i transfer to my husband and he can *sometimes* set her down. But then she’s up in an hour so we have a choice of either trying to settle her and basically start all over again or going to bed early. She’s EBF so I know that has a play into her comfort and soothing. Sometimes when she wakes up the only way to calm her down is to nurse her but I know she’s not actually hungry and is comfort nursing. We’ve been thinking of trying to lay her down in the crib again for that first stretch, theres no way homegirl is doing a whole night in there yet, and attempt to resettle her until we go to sleep around 10pm. How do other co sleeping parents get their LO to independently sleep for a few hour stretch without letting them cry it out? Or is this typical EBF behavior? She used to be able to be set down for naps and would sleep 30-45 min by herself with the occasional 2 hour stretch. The last few weeks she wakes when I try to set her down so she contact naps for most of them but I try to set her down for almost every nap. We are at a loss of what to do. Any advice, techniques, words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated!