How to deal with ethical non monogamy and alt culture in Autistic social spaces?
Recently, I've made an effort in connecting with the Neurodivergent community in my city as I battle romantic and platonic loneliness rooted in my inability to mask my neurotype which has made interacting with Neurotypicals so much more difficult. I guess my 10 year burnout has destroyed my brains ability to cosplay as a normie.
Anyways, this has led to me increasingly becoming closer to the autistic community, and Im now socialising exclusively with those with AuDHD as I embrace my true self.
The problem is that I'm hit with significant cultural differences between my Neurotypical traditional upbringing and the alternative progressive norms of the autistic community. I am open-minded, and I'm also contending with my discovery of my bi sexuality and possibly non binary status.
But it seems like the autistic community that I frequent may be a polyamory hot bed. I am currently talking to someone I'm really interested in romantically. I later found out that she has a girlfriend who is ok with her partnering with another ND male bisexual. According to her, most of the friends I've made within the autistic community are in some sort of non monogamous relationship.
I am open to ethical monogamy, as it allows me to test the waters in a moment where I dont feel like I am capable of having a full time traditional monogamous relationship..and I really like the girl in question, but sometimes I think Ive bitten off more than I could chew considering Im still operating at limited capacity and it was just recently that I found out about my autism diagnosis 8 months ago. And now I'm being plunged into an alternative culture that I never thought would exist in my city or that I would be apart of. I'm just wondering for those who experienced what I am currently going through, namely transitioning from a traditional Neurotypical culture to alternative Neurodivergent culture with its unique set of cultural mores and ethical standards, do you have any good tips on how to make the transition as seamless as possible?
Are there any good resources on autistic relationships and ethical non monogamy?