u/LossMiserable7874

I’m certain that I’m not the only one feeling the complex emotions that Mother’s Day can bring. Not only do we have our own maternal relationship baggage to navigate today, but as foster and adoptive parents there feels like another, more complicated layer.

I’ve had my son in my care for four years, since he was about seven months old. We finalized adoption this past August. Today is my first Mother’s Day as his official, legal mom, and I’ve been feeling the joy and sorrow of the day so intensely. I also have his 1.5yo sibling in my care via foster.

Currently, I’m sitting on my front porch enjoying the beautiful weather, birds chirping, breeze in the air and they are inside on a FaceTime with bio mom, baby sibling’s dad, and big sister (who lives with a third party).

Anyone else feel like they can’t fully enjoy or even be present on days like today? It feels icky to lean into it — “celebrate me! I’m your mom! Thanks for these flowers!” — and also icky to sit too long in the reality of a broken family and ruined relationships.

How are we getting through days like today? How are we handling our own hearts and caring for the hearts of our littles?

He’s confused, and he’s sad. And I know I can’t fix that, that this will be a lifelong journey of healing and revisiting, and that one day he will demand accountability from all the adults in his life. But right now, what do I do? How do I support him in his nearly five-year-old emotions and thoughts?

I pray a lot. We go to church. We ask for comfort and healing broken hearts. But I think that seems so BIG for little kid, and maybe difficult to wrap his mind around.

I think these things don’t really have answers.

Sending everyone here a hug today, whether you’re navigating your own emotions or helping a kiddo through theirs.

Grace.

Hello!

35 working in Asset Management financial processing (operations specialist). Currently making 52K in a MCOL city. Been with the bank for +6 years, on my current team for 2.5yr, and just received a promotion in March (previously making 48.5k).

I have a history of getting antsy after being in jobs for a while, and this is the longest I’ve been with any single company. This recent promotion is on the same team, basically doing the same job, just with some additional projects to take on. I’ve already completed some side projects, identified a metrics issue that needed technical fixes, and am currently leading a larger scale project that impacts the future of how we process our client-impacting by work. I want to keep increasing my salary, but I’m a little lost on where to go from here and what to aim for from this position.

I do a pretty good job at being a “yes man”; my work ethic has gotten me recognized by department management (two levels above my current manager) and my name has a good reputation. I think I’ll need to keep plugging away with this team and in this new position for a couple of years, but I’m getting bored and antsy. I’m curious what a reasonable next step is and what salary I should be aiming for.

I’m wary of “starting over” because in the past the new start has meant I’ve felt like a personal failure and been too unsettled or burnt out to continue in whatever job it was. I also have a kid now and there’s more at stake if something doesn’t work out.

Does 52k sound reasonable for this position/location/time with the bank? Should I be considering switching to another company?

Failing at Kevzara and the next biologic to try is Orencia. I just logged in to my specialty pharmacy and saw that they’re sending me syringes. I guess I’ve been lucky with all the auto-injectors over the last few years.

Are syringes as scary as they look? Is it just more of a mind game? Do they hurt any more or less?

Thank you!

Hello all! I’ve (35F) been on Wegovy since June 2025 and am down \~60lbs, currently at 2.4mg. I love how I’m feeling and am looking forward to continual progress toward my goal of losing >100lbs total.

I’ve noticed over the last 2-3 months that my Rheumatoid Arthritis symptoms (hand weakness & fatigue, sore joints, stiffness) are getting worse. I’m on Kevzara and Arava, and they have been working great for the last two years. It could very well be that my body is getting used to these meds and the RA is worse, or less receptive to these drugs now, but I’m also wondering if it has anything to do with moving up to 2.4mg. I would assume losing weight would be helpful to the RA, but I guess anything can happen and bodies are weird. I’m curious about anyone else’s personal anecdotes.

Has anyone else dealing with RA (or other autoimmune diseases) noticed their symptoms worsening with going up in Wegovy dosage or as you lose weight?

I have an upcoming appointment with my rheumatologist at the end of April, so I promise I’m not turning to the internet for medical advice. I’m just curious!

Thank you!