Advice for newbie sub
I (30F) recently got out of a long term relationship (11 years). Nothing bad happened we just ended up as friends and ended amicably. We also weren’t very sexually compatible. I like being submissive and so did he. Being dominant was unnatural for both of us, though we both craved it.
I’m over the relationship. But I also haven’t dated at all since I was 19. Now I’m interested in dating but specifically looking for a d/s dynamic. I just started going to munches and meeting people in the community. I plan on continuing to do that. However I’m not really romantically interested in anyone I’ve met. So I’m looking on Feeld for potential play partners. I’ve tried to research a bunch and I’m doing my best to vet doms and be smart about it in general (no sex the first time we meet, public place, tell people where I’m going, what does domming mean to you, etc.). I’m basically hoping to find someone I can trust who has more experience to explore this space with and figure out what I actually like irl vs. fantasy.
My question is: considering I literally haven’t dated since I was a teenager or fucked anyone else besides my ex, do you recommend trying to regular date and hook up with people first before exploring kink specifically?
I’m really not looking to jump into another monogamous relationship. But I am looking to establish a longer term dynamic with someone. Curious what your thoughts are.