u/Lordlivinstone

People, what’s your take on se× only after marriage? I know this might sound a little taboo or conservative.

I’m 24 and I’ve never been in a relationship or done anything physical with anyone. I’ve had online VCs, sexting, all that… but nothing real.

I even went to a brothel once out of curiosity, but when the moment actually came, I couldn’t even go inside with the woman there. For some reason, I feel like I want to keep myself that way for the love of my life,even though I haven’t even met her yet.

But at the same time, seeing people younger than me casually talk about their se× lives and experiences makes me feel kinda left out sometimes. Like, am i missing out on a major part of life?

So I genuinely wanna ask , am I looking at this the wrong way, or is it actually worth waiting?

And does being a one girl guy even work in this era anymore?

Also, one thing I genuinely worry about will being this inexperienced actually affect my future se×ual life or relationship in any way

People, what’s your take on se× only after marriage? I know this might sound a little taboo or conservative.

I’m 24 and I’ve never been in a relationship or done anything physical with anyone. I’ve had online VCs, sexting, all that… but nothing real.

I even went to a brothel once out of curiosity, but when the moment actually came, I couldn’t even go inside with the woman there. For some reason, I feel like I want to keep myself that way for the love of my life,even though I haven’t even met her yet.

But at the same time, seeing people younger than me casually talk about their se× lives and experiences makes me feel kinda left out sometimes. Like, am i missing out on a major part of life?

So I genuinely wanna ask , am I looking at this the wrong way, or is it actually worth waiting?

And does being a one girl guy even work in this era anymore?

Also, one thing I genuinely worry about will being this inexperienced actually affect my future se×ual life or relationship in any way

People, what’s your take on se× only after marriage? I know this might sound a little taboo or conservative.

I’m 24 and I’ve never been in a relationship or done anything physical with anyone. I’ve had online VCs, sexting, all that… but nothing real.

I even went to a brothel once out of curiosity, but when the moment actually came, I couldn’t even go inside with the woman there. For some reason, I feel like I want to keep myself that way for the love of my life,even though I haven’t even met her yet.

But at the same time, seeing people younger than me casually talk about their se× lives and experiences makes me feel kinda left out sometimes. Like, am i missing out on a major part of life?

So I genuinely wanna ask , am I looking at this the wrong way, or is it actually worth waiting?

And does being a one girl guy even work in this era anymore?

Also, one thing I genuinely worry about will being this inexperienced actually affect my future se×ual life or relationship in any way?

So, I posted about the woman next door in 2 subs asking whether I should approach her or not.

My friends already knew about this because I had talked to them before, but since my entire friend circle is basically just men, you can imagine the kind of reactions I got. That’s why I was confused and thought of posting here instead.

Honestly, I expected replies from people who had gone through something similar, or women around her age who could actually give me some perspective and advice. But instead, just because of a few movie references I made, I got labelled as a creep.

And another thing people misunderstood ,the only way I even notice her most of the time is through the window from my room, without her knowing. If I stand outside and openly look toward her house, people here will notice because all the houses face each other and there are always elders outside watching everything

And the reason I avoid doing that is because I genuinely don’t want people gossiping or ruining her reputation. We’re literally the only two unmarried people living next to each other right now, so even small things become talk in places like this.

That’s exactly why I needed advice I couldn’t ask about this to people in my personal life.

Only one person actually dm’d me properly, and only a few people gave real advice. The rest just made me feel like some creep, and honestly it genuinely messed with my head.

Also, I made the original post 2 days ago, and since then I haven’t seen her outside. I know she’s there, but she hasn’t come to the side facing my place at all. Now my brain is overthinking that maybe she somehow saw the post too .

Anyways, it all started here, so let’s finish it here too.

What should I actually do now? Just leave everything as it is, or should I do something about it?

So, I posted about the woman next door in 2 subs asking whether I should approach her or not.

My friends already knew about this because I had talked to them before, but since my entire friend circle is basically just men, you can imagine the kind of reactions I got. That’s why I was confused and thought of posting here instead.

Honestly, I expected replies from people who had gone through something similar, or women around her age who could actually give me some perspective and advice. But instead, just because of a few movie references I made, I got labelled as a creep.

And another thing people misunderstood ,the only way I even notice her most of the time is through the window from my room, without her knowing. If I stand outside and openly look toward her house, people here will notice because all the houses face each other and there are always elders outside watching everything

And the reason I avoid doing that is because I genuinely don’t want people gossiping or ruining her reputation. We’re literally the only two unmarried people living next to each other right now, so even small things become talk in places like this.

That’s exactly why I needed advice I couldn’t ask about this to people in my personal life.

Only one person actually dm’d me properly, and only a few people gave real advice. The rest just made me feel like some creep, and honestly it genuinely messed with my head.

Also, I made the original post 2 days ago, and since then I haven’t seen her outside. I know she’s there, but she hasn’t come to the side facing my place at all. Now my brain is overthinking that maybe she somehow saw the post too .

Anyways, it all started here, so let’s finish it here too.

What should I actually do now? Just leave everything as it is, or should I do something about it?

part 1 ( read part one before this, if you're interested)

So after that whole 7th grade , I had to switch schools because my old school was only boys till upper primary, and after 7th it basically ends for boys there. Girls continue till high school, but for us it was like “ok bye ”

So I planned to join a more boys-only school thinking I can focus on studies, build my future and all that. But lowkey… even that decision was because of her She was a “padippi” , so I wanted to get into her good books by getting full A+ flex and becoming someone worth noticing. That was literally my main motivation.

I joined the new school, and a few of my friends joined too. But slowly I started drifting from them because I got more focused on studies.

That year actually went decent ... first half I did well academically, participated in extracurriculars, picked up new hobbies like tech stuff, editing, etc. Basically I was trying to become productive version of me

But my goal was still her.

Even though I couldn’t see her daily anymore, I used to wake up early and literally go near her bus stop just in case I could catch a glimpse of her. Like “devi darshanam labhikkan” level dedication 🙏🏻

At that time my friends (old + new) started calling me true love ...and

one guy who had already proposed her earlier for fun started telling others she’s actually really pretty and everyone should see her just to make me jealous. Another guy from class also got curious and wanted to see her.

Turns out both of them actually lived near her area and were friends with her close friend . That’s when I started getting anxious. They were more outgoing, charming, already had multiple relationships… and I’m just standing there like nervous NPC( around her only)

And from what I observed, she was also into bold type… so I started overthinking like “she probably likes bold people and I’m clearly not that

Slowly I started slipping again to backbench, academics started dropping.

Then one day one of that guy came to me and said:“Did you hear? She’s not single anymore. Someone already got into a relationship with her.”

I got desperate tbh. Like I was doing all this for her for years, even if she didn’t know it. I was waiting for the right moment but at the same time I didn’t want to disturb her peace by randomly going behind her every day.

But after hearing that, I couldn’t sleep properly. I just wanted to know if it was true or just rumors they made up to make me jealous. I kept asking him again and again, and he kept saying his source was her best friend. So I believed it.

Back then I was active on Facebook and socials. And yeah… I had this habit with my friends where we used fake accounts to troll/expose people (like kozhi friends on birthdays etc 💀).

So I did something I still regret.

I searched for her profile but she didn’t really have one. But I found out she sometimes used her mom’s account to chat with her friends.

So without thinking properly, I texted her mom’s account pretending to be her friend.And surprisingly… her mom replied first

She said she’ll let her know once she comes back from work.

That’s how I first ever chat with her… through a fake account on her mom’s profile.

I kept texting mostly in english so it would look like a girl, because most boys around didn’t text like that. I was pretty good at english, so the conversation continued for a few weeks. Eventually she had to block me.

I never directly asked if she was in a relationship because it was her mom’s account and I didn’t want to create trouble. I just acted like some long lost friend she didn’t remember.

But my doubts still weren’t cleared.

So I did something worse… something I haven’t forgiven myself for.

I created a fake account in her name. Used an actress DP because she looked similar to one. And suddenly… everyone from school started sending requests and DMs. Even her friends.

I tried talking to them indirectly to see if anyone mentioned a boyfriend or anything. But nobody ever confirmed anything like that.

After a few days I had to shut the account down because it was getting out of hand, her friends started asking me who are you and all, her friends figured it out and told her....

And that’s where things kind of ended… but also started

I'll come back with part 3 ( hope she won't see this 💀🙂)

Okay genuine question as someone new here… has anyone actually pulled a date from this sub?

Or are we all just lonely and delusional together? 💀

She was my first true love and it was actually insane

I joined a new school in 5th grade after moving to a new town. On my very first day, the first girl I ever saw there was her. My mom was talking to her mom outside the classroom, and my mom pointed at me saying, “that’s my son,” and her mom pointed at her saying, “that’s my daughter.”

Bro… the moment I looked at where her mom is pointing, something genuinely changed in my brain 💀

I’ve never felt that way before or after in my life. I saw her . My heart started racing, I kept staring at her, and suddenly my only life goal became this girl

I kept it secret for almost 2 years except for a few friends who were already her classmates. Then in 6th grade we had a class shuffle, and I prayed she’d end up in my class… and somehow she did.

I was an average backbencher menace while she was a full-on padippi. Sometimes teachers would ask the padippis to pick a guy and teach them she used to pick me. But the funny part is, around her I became the most nervous human alive. In those 2 years, I probably never talked to her for more than 5 minutes straight 😭

By 7th grade, literally every boy in school knew I liked her, but somehow nobody told her directly. I even became friends with her friends but still couldn’t confess.

Then suddenly all the boys in school started realizing she was pretty. Meanwhile I’m there like “bro I BEEN saying this for 2 years” 💀

So she started getting proposals left and right, and I was genuinely devastated watching that happen. But weirdly, all my boys supported me. One day after school, while everyone was waiting for the school bus, some guy was proposing to her and blocking her way dramatically.

My boys literally dragged me into the scene like it was a mass movie entrance 😭

I walked up behind her and hit the cinematic “NO” while asking her to go back to class like some low budget hero scene. Then my friends jumped in and we fought with the guy. (Tbh he used to objectify girls anyway, so everyone already wanted to beat him up )

Later that same guy proposed to her again and she immediately rejected him. Then I went near her with my friends around me, and one of them straight up asked:

“He likes you… what do you think about him?”

And bro… she didn’t say a single word. She just started crying immediately.

After that, I never really talked to her again. But I’d still go to school early every single day just to see her arrive so my day could start well 😭

Even during holidays, I’d ride my cycle around her area for kilometers hoping I’d randomly see her once.

Looking back now, it sounds so stupid and dramatic, but I genuinely think that was the purest love I’ve ever felt in my life.

part 2 Part 2 is here, if you're interested

So, my family and I moved into a new house a few months ago, and there’s this unmarried woman living alone next door. I’ve never actually talked to her or even seen her properly up close, but I lowkey keep noticing her through my window ( it's a villa colony)

It’s been a while now, and as a single guy, I kinda started thinking about trying to build some sort of connection with her.

She seems really introverted and calm. I know she’s unmarried, but I have no idea if she’s single. The reasons I’m interested are,

I think she’s pretty

I’ve always been into mature women

I’ve always wanted that “girl next door” type of relationship

So yeah… I need advice, especially from women. Do y’all think there’s actually a chance if I try? Or should I just leave it alone before I become the neighborhood weirdo 💀

I’m 23, and she’s probably around 27 or 28 ( not sure)

So, I moved into a new house a few months ago, and there’s this unmarried woman living alone next door. I’ve never actually talked to her or even seen her properly up close, but I lowkey keep noticing her through my window ( it's a villa colony)

It’s been a while now, and as a single guy, I kinda started thinking about trying to build some sort of connection with her.

She seems really introverted and calm. I know she’s unmarried, but I have no idea if she’s single. The reasons I’m interested are,

I think she’s pretty

I’ve always been into mature women

I’ve always wanted that “girl next door” type of relationship

So yeah… I need advice, especially from women. Do y’all think there’s actually a chance if I try? Or should I just leave it alone before I become the neighborhood weirdo 💀

I’m 24, and she’s probably around 27 or 28 ( not sure)

So I told my friends that Kerala roads have improved a lot in the last 10 years, even compared to some neighbouring states. I’ve travelled across most of Kerala, nearby states, and even a few North Indian states, so this is just based on what I’ve personally seen.

What I realized is, other states usually have better geography for roads wider land, flatter areas, easier expansion etc. Meanwhile Kerala has narrow stretches, curves, hills, ups and downs everywhere. Even with that, we still manage to tar or concrete tiny pocket roads in villages and residential areas.

In many other places, once you leave the main roads, people are still dealing with dusty roads and poor connectivity. Their highways are definitely better, but they also have way more land available for huge NH projects.

But the moment I said this, my friends started calling me a “kammi” 💀

Then before elections I also said VDS supporters probably can’t fully trust UDF either, because every time they win, internal fights start almost immediately and eventually the high command sidelines VDS anyway.

And I’m kinda against IUML too, because personally I feel BJP and IUML both play identity politics in different forms, so their ideologies don’t feel that different to me sometimes.

Now suddenly I became a “sanghi” in front of my friends 💀

Apparently in Kerala, if you criticize one side you automatically belong to the other side lol.

Turned 24 recently and honestly feeling lost as hell.

When I was younger (like 15-17), I had my whole life planned out. I genuinely believed I’d make it big somehow. I had confidence, ambition, goals… everything felt clear. Then COVID happened and somewhere after that I slowly lost control of my life.

Now I’m jobless, around 5 lakhs in debt, barely go outside, and spend most of my time inside my room overthinking everything.

My friends always say I’m “too overconfident” but weirdly that confidence is the only thing keeping me alive mentally. Deep down I still feel like I can change my life completely if I lock in for a few months. Problem is… I never stay consistent enough to actually do it.

Another thing is, I’ve been craving a relationship for years now. Like genuinely craving emotional connection. I’ve used dating apps for a long time, met a lot of girls, talked to people from different countries too, some still talk to me even now.

But none of it feels real.

I’m kind of old-school and ambivert-ish. I want that real life connection. Someone to actually be there physically, emotionally… someone who motivates me and makes me want to become better naturally.

Back in school I had a one-sided love thing for years and kept getting rejected. I’ve moved on emotionally but I still have her pictures saved somewhere lol. Maybe I’m just attached to the idea of being loved at this point.

And before anyone says “focus on yourself first” — trust me, I KNOW. I’d say the same thing to someone else too.

But being realistic and honest for once… I want a girlfriend badly. Not for hookups or validation. I just want someone who feels like home.

Is it stupid that I feel like having the right person in my life could actually help me get back on track?

Or am I just trying to use love as an escape from fixing myself?

I've turned 24 recently and have never been in a relationship, It feels like I'm too old already. Tried almost all dating apps, dating sites, bots.

I had a one-sided love for almost 12 years, until she blocked me on everything, glad she did that now I've moved on. But honestly she was kinda fuel for me to go on . But after she left life hasn't been the same , no motivation at all... One of my friends said, if I keep opening up about the 12 years, no woman is gonna consider me.. is that right?

Now I feel like I'm craving a good relationship but don't know where to start... Guide me.