Wife acting differently
So I'm at a lost here. We've been together since 2010, but married for 7 years. we have had our ups and downs throughout the years.
In early March I had gone through her purse because I felt like something was off. I didnt find anything. I was wrong. I asked her why she had another phone in her purse, turns out it was her old phone and she was trying to get photos off of it. I apologized.i had seen she was active on snapchat one day and asked if she used it. she said occasionally yo twlk to some old female co workers, so i let it go. we went on vacation shortly after and she was on her phone a lot it seemed. I checked her Snapchat from my account and she was posting things. nothing bad, but I didnt know. fast forward a week later and I told her I was thinking certain things, I guess I accused her of cheating but I tried to tell her it made me all uncomfortable. she said she wouldn't do that and she hasn't given me q reason to think that. She also blocked me on snap since I kept viewing her stories...
as the weeks progress I still tell her how I'm feeling and shes still on snap but now using it more, daily it seems, posting to her stories etc. she then tells me because I was acting that way, she wants to move into a separate bedroom in the house for space. and in her mind she is on a separation until we can rebuild our marriage foundation. when we talked about that she said she wasn't sure if it would work. "it'll be what it'll be" but she hopes it works out for us.
she said previously in one of our talks that we met all those years ago and just drank and had sex and ended up starting a family. she said she didnt know if we were actually compatible.
last easter weekend was great we spent a lot of time together and there was a lot of flirting. no sex though, which is fine. I gave her a really great back rub. I let my thoughts slip that night and said she was giving me mix signals ( because I thought she wanted more but ended up falling asleep at the end of the backrub). the next day she said she thinks sex should be a bonus not a expectation, I agree, no pressure right. I just want to fix things.
fast forward to this week. no deep talks about feelings, but she constantly posts on Snapchat. she added a bio that says
location marker icon (only state) < does that mean she shares her location in real time or just the state shes in?
here for good vibes and new friends ✨️
🫠 doesn't respond to just hey hi or how are you
keep it classy 💖
I dont know what to make of that. I have talked to crisis about how I feel but I dont want to leave her or my family to get help. I know fixing this will fix how I feel and I won't feel like I'm losing it amd want to kill myself.
at home in the evenings we eat together sit together cuddle, ill rub her feet, and at night she will come over and lay with me and fall asleep as I hold her.
is she trying to create space so she can talk to other people while deciding if she wants me? is Snapchat a issue? I just dont think creating that emotional distance with moving rooms will help anything.
sorry if this is confusing I'm typing while crying. can anyone make sense of this?
tldr. I snooped in her stuff, she posts a lot on snapchat, she wants to move into another bedroom for space and to rebuild marriage, but we get along great at home and are flirty.