u/Lilrose897

Idk if I’m still considered a “new parent” but this past year flew by so quick and still learning every day.
My LO turns 1 tomorrow. And his pediatrician told us to sleep train. And I’m going to be v honest I’m still not comfy with listening to him cry or cry himself to sleep when I can literally rock him for 5-10 mins and he falls asleep . Does anyone have any advice or opinions on this. Like I’m completely fine doing this forever tbh cause I know it won’t last. But I’m just curious if one day he just will fall asleep

So I have a two friends that got engaged over the past year one of their weddings is in November the other is next July.

Both had mentioned to me that they were thinking of me as a bridesmaids. (Separately) I told them both I would love to support them in whatever they needed just not necessarily be a bridesmaids I haven’t had a good experience yet (every wedding I’ve been too I’ve been in and barely speak to any of them now)

Fast forward. Bride 1 text me saying she knows I don’t want to and she doesn’t want to force me into it but I’m one of the closer friends she has and talks to me about the same if not more than her siblings. When I tell you I absolutely adore Bride 1 I’d ride at dawn for her. I originally still passed. And she accepted but I discussed it with my husband and bestfriend and talked about how I actually don’t think this friendship would end. And ultimately told her yes and now I’m literally so excited to be here!

Bride 2 finds this out and asks me quite literally two days later. We never had a conversation like bride 1 and I did. Just more so “I heard you were going to be a bridesmaid in her wedding “ and asked.
Bride 2 and I don’t talk often. It’s more in a group setting. Solo hangouts are even more rare and more awkward. And I just feel like I got pressured into saying yes. For this one and lack of empathy and understanding. Also her wedding isn’t until July next year and one of her MOH has already rubbed me the wrong way twice. Once assuming I’d be okay booking a house that required 25+ since I’m the only one. And being argumentative in a group chat with 8 other people. And another was at a mini meet up acting as if being the childhood friend made her better than everybody else.
I just have more of dread for Bride 2s wedding than excitement because she’s also trying to plan a Bach trip for $3000 pp and I told her I could not do that and she tried to make me feel shitty for not letting her have her dream wedding. Also I just feel like she asked way too early.

Basically I’m trying to figure out if I should say something about not wanting to be in bride 2s wedding while still being in bride 1s. We all used to work with each other and I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.