Constant disagreements with GF
I didn’t really want to post this online, but I’m honestly out of options at this point.
My girlfriend (23) and I (22) have been dating for a while now. In the beginning, everything felt great — we’re super similar, same interests, same vibe, and I genuinely felt like we just got each other.
But around 3–4 months in, things started changing. She began arguing with me constantly, and I mean about almost everything.
One example:
We found some kittens on a farm. One is very shy and struggles to approach people, and the other is super social and playful.
I started giving a bit more attention to the shy one because no one else really was, and I felt bad for it. The social one was already getting attention from everyone.
But my girlfriend kept insisting and arguing nonstop that I’m biased because I think the shy one is prettier (it’s an African wildcat vs a normal black cat, so yeah, it does look more unique).
Her issue is that I’m “ignoring” the social kitten, even though I’m just trying to balance things out so the shy one doesn’t get left out.
No matter how I explain it, she keeps pushing it and turns it into an argument until I eventually just apologize to end the fight.
And it’s not just this it happens with a lot of small things too.
Another example:
I work from home and don’t really have friends. One time we hung out with one of her friends and I actually got along really well with her boyfriend.
Later, my girlfriend invited them over again. Her friend had to leave early because of an issue with her dog, but the boyfriend stayed behind to hang out with me since we were getting along.
That turned into a huge fight later that night. She was upset that I kept hanging out with him, and it only stopped after I apologized… for making a new friend.
At this point I just feel drained and honestly kind of lost. I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this I don’t want to involve my family because I don’t want them to see her differently.
I care about her, but this constant arguing and feeling like I have to apologize just to keep the peace is really getting to me.
I don’t know if I’m missing something here or if this just isn’t normal.
Any advice?