Constant communication
Hello, so I am starting to get frustrated with my sons father constantly calling me and texting me. We have been separated a little over a year, and since he has gotten sober me and him have been on better terms. He has our son who is 3 every other weekend. Our son is autistic and is not currently speaking. He used to FaceTime me during his time with our son during the morning, and at night. At first I was happy and ok with this, but I have since realized that it was not healthy for me as I felt like I needed to be home and answer the phone every other weekend. I told him that it’s ok, I trust him and that I am fine with just a text and a photo every now and then. He stopped for a while, but he still calls me, and he tried to FaceTime me last weekend. Now when it is my time he calls me at least once or twice a day, and will send me texts. It’s mostly about our son and what he ate, if he is ok, his program, and stuff like that, but it just feels a little excessive. Last week he was calling and texting me about his bathroom and how he wants me to style it and pick what looks good for him. It’s not necessary to have constant communication, and I have tried explaining this to him before. I tell him I will update him if anything new happens or if I need to speak to him. Last month he was also dropping off food for our son, but he doesn’t even live close it’s a bit far so I wasn’t understanding why do all of this just for some snacks. I told him to not come anymore please, and he stopped. Now today he wants to drop off a book our son forgot at his house and some more food since he will be in the area. I don’t want to make him feel bad and I do appreciate all his efforts but I just feel like it is too much. For reference he was emotionally and physically abusive to me in the past, and our relationship was not healthy and it still gives me a lot of anxiety that I am healing from in therapy. I do everything I can to have a good relationship with him for our son, but does anyone have any advice on what I should do now? It’s not so easy as to just ignore him, because I do. I almost never answer the phone and only try to answer texts. Any advice I would appreciate please. Thank you.