When did it click to you that they are gaslighting you??
for me i had my doubts now and then but i used to brush it off. but one day I was at the hospital and asked him to accompany me bcoz i had to get a scan and he denied and blamed me of making things up for attention. I was having this conversation over texts and i was reading them while i was getting my vitals checked before the doctor consultation and the nurse kept asking me if I had heart issues bcoz my BP was reading very high..thats when I knew for sure that, it wasnt all just in my head that his treatment genuinely hurts and stresses me out. it was confirmation that my body physically feels stressed out and that im not just bringing things up bcoz I "just cant be peaceful when everything is fine". a lot of things became clear to me that day.