u/LieutenantLightning

This post is touching on very sensitive material but it is not meant to be controversial.

I am seriously wondering how people of various racial/ethnic backgrounds feel about the demographic statistics of their community, particularly the racial composition.

I should say that I am a person of color (POC) who is sometimes mistaken for Caucasian but usually perceived as Hispanic in appearance. I grew up in the San Gabriel Valley in the 1960’s when it had a much higher proportion of Caucasians than it currently does.

As the racial make-up of that valley and the IE has changed, I will admit that I initially felt quite uncomfortable with the growing percentage of Hispanic people who didn’t speak English, the increase in the Asian population, and the reduced number of Caucasians. My concern was that it would result in lower economic prospects for my children & grandchildren and also that I was concerned that when there was a Hispanic majority, I and people like me would somehow feel diminished or have a reduced sense of belonging.

I want to explain how my perspective has changed. I have so much more respect for Hispanic immigrants than I ever had before. They comfortably and appropriately fit into every profession and socio-economic class in our state. I cannot say enough about the work ethic of my Hispanic neighbors and friends.

My neighborhood also has a late population of Asians. While many of them appear to be more standoffish and clannish, that quickly changes when you extend kindness and respect.

I guess what I am saying is that my attitude has changed considerably over the years and now I have so much less concern or worries about the future of our area.

My wife and I have hosted several neighborhood Bunco /potluck gatherings and were so pleased that neighbors of various ethnic groups came together and had a fun time.

I welcome your respectful comments about this sensitive issue. Please no hatred or bigotry.

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u/LieutenantLightning — 8 days ago
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I am an older male therapist, licensed over 25 years, and have been in therapy myself several times over the years. As I search for a new therapist for myself, I notice I am drawn more to female therapists. As I explore this preference, I am coming to the conclusion that I still feel safer with a female therapist even though I rationally know that a male therapist can be just as empathetic and supportive.

I realize I will likely get some flak about my fear of being vulnerable in front of other men and still needing to get maternal affection, and gender stereotypes, etc. I acknowledge there is some truth in all of those. And I will continue exploring those with the therapist I select.

I guess I am posting this to get some feedback as a form of pseudo-therapy while I search for a therapist.

Please share your thoughts.

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u/LieutenantLightning — 8 days ago