Is really is her loss, isn’t it?
How you gonna fumble a man with a stable job, income, savings, good credit, car, has 2-3 close friends, all about her and worshipped the ground she walked on, didn’t mind going out of his way to spend time with her, put miles on his car, spent a fortune on gas, fortune on oil changes, paid medical bills for her while asking nothing in return, got her flowers for no reason, got her gifts for no reason, spoiled her for Christmas and Valentine’s Day, had dates and events planned, takes care of his mental heath in therapy, was willing to change for her, endlessly defended her when everyone else said she was full of shit, overlooked red flags and chose to keep loving her, had eyes for nobody else and would’ve loved her forever, family oriented man who’s family liked and welcomed her, doesn’t need sex and is content with basic affection, constantly hyped her up and told her how beautiful she is, was reassuring, careful of triggers, literally scheduled an evaluation to fix an issue in the relationship (potential ADHD on my end), wanted to be able to provide and take care of her so she could pursue her desires, spent HOURS researching BPD to try to understand. I could probably keep going. Meanwhile she has no job, no money, no car, no license, no savings, medical debt, still lives with parents (which is fine, I do too but I pay half of everything), refuses help for mental health treatment. Again, could go on. But it was “my loss” apparently.