u/LesbianVegetarian15

I hate how so many men and boys think that autistic/neurodivergent girls exist to romanticise their lives. I'm a lesbian but so many boys I knew starting from when I was maybe fifteen (undiagnosed but was quite obviously neurodivergent), decided that they wanted to date me because I was supposedly 'so quirky' and interesting.

One boy told me that he thought it was so cute when I would run away at random times (I have OCD as well and running away is a common compulsion for me) , that I was just so intriguing. I replied that it wasn't very cute to me as my own behaviour scared me. He called me a bitch because I guess it's not so cute to stand up for yourself.

I love Virginia Woolf and Sylvia Plath. I love to talk about Virginia Woolf and Sylvia Plath. You know what I don't love? Boys with the intellectual capacity of a tennis ball thinking that I'm going to abandon talking about my interests to teach them emotional regulation. As though I know anything better myself.

Autism is only 'cute and quirky' when they're not spending hours a day with you. You might think my hand-flapping and clumsiness are cute but I really don't think you'd be so pleased when I punch myself in the face when that headache is slightly too difficult or rip my shirt in a burst of madness.

I partly blame the 'manic-pixie-dream-girl' trope for this. Life doesn't work like Elizabethtown, apparently this is a hard idea to grasp.

I am a person, not a concept to be toyed with and used for your enlightenment. If your life is feeling dull, I suggest picking up a guitar or joining a LARPing group, rather than ruining the lives of women who already have enough trouble in their own heads.

Sincerely, a girl fed up with guys who want me to be their Ramona Flowers and don't believe me when I say I have a girlfriend.

I asked Dairy Australia this question and this was their response.

I'm not here to be interesting for you