u/Lee-Malone

Hey, over 60s!

At our age, I guess most of us will by now have lost some significant people from our lives. I'm 68 and all 4 of my grandparents and both my parents are no longer with us. The one I miss most is my maternal granddad. My mother was adopted, so I had no biological connection to granddad. But he was a huge influence on me and even after 17+ years I still miss him every day. If I'm honest, he's the only person I miss - the others never make me feel this way.

Anyone else care to share?

On Saturday 2nd May (the next bank holiday weekend), I will be driving from Tyneside to Peterborough - leaving around 09hr30.

I hate the A1 between Ferrybridge and Peterborough because of the huge number of HGVs that populate it, and would rather go as far down the M1 as possible, and then cut-across.

Are there any reasonable options, in terms of being able to keep-up a decent average speed and not getting stuck in queues of slow-moving traffic, for getting from the M1 over to Peterborough? Or will I just have to grin-and-bear the A1?

I'm probably spending far too much time on these subs, and instead of just coping with our dead bedroom - as I have been doing for the last decade - I'm wasting time looking for reasons/excuses.

All the time I've known my wife we have been opposites in timing. I'm ready to sleep any time after about 9, and always out of bed by 6 in the morning - sometimes earlier. She has to have an alarm (usually set for 8) to wake in the morning, and is rarely sleepy before midnight. She never allowed any intimacy that wasn't in bed, in the dark, under the covers - ie, it had to be late at night. I learned early in our relationship that intimacy was never going to be spontaneous enough for a first thing in the morning session, or a mid-afternoon session. There was one time I woke-up horny and started to cuddle and caress her. That didn't end well, she was not happy for quite a while after.

So when we were having sex, it was always a case of me saying "I'm going to bed, do you want to come with me?". To be fair to her I don't recall a time when she refused me, although I was always left with the impression that she was just performing a duty. Once we were both "done", she would usually get up again and not come back to bed until I was sound asleep. This was suboptimal for me because I would have preferred to stay close to each other after the sex - that connection is just as important to me as the PIV.

If I didn't ask if she wanted to come to bed with me, she would just stay up on her own until she was ready to sleep - just like she does all the time now.

Has anyone here ever had a similar experience with a partner? Non-matching circadian rhythms interfering with sex-life? I'm sure, in our case, that isn't all of the problem but I'm wondering if it's part of the reason we're incompatible.