I don’t want any judgement please. 12 months ago, my boyfriend and I had been together for 2.5 years. We were 28 and 29. We rented in a tiny one bedroom studio flat following us going away travelling, and my boyfriend really struggled to get a job when we got back. So we’d done well to get on our feet and renting.
I unexpectedly got pregnant (was on birth control) and after lots of discussion we made the painful decision to abort. We were living in our tiny flat, we had very little savings and we don’t have family nearby (we’d have to put it straight into childcare). We agreed we definitely want children when we have a bit more out by.
No judgement re the above please. Now we are moving out in a few months, we have more savings and I’m feeling positive.
But recently at work; I’ve been working with a girl who recently came back from maternity leave, and another young girl. They have both made comments over the last few weeks such as:
- how things change when you get pregnant and suddenly you want a baby
- how time is running out
- how maybe if we had a baby we’d be more willing to change our living situation
- the young girl said her boyfriend recently said he’s ready to have kids
Obviously they aren’t aware of my situation.
Has anyone else had the same kind of comments?