u/Leading-Plantain6748

I am F 27 with M 26 I have been in a few long-term relationships that I thought would end up in marriage. The first of which ended up with me finding out that he was cheating on me for the last six months that we were together, and the last one ended abruptly with no explanation and he ended up starting dating someone within a month or two after breaking up with me so I suspect that there was cheating there so I’ve been through a lot and the last one really messed me up because while in both of those relationships we did talk about marriage, the most recent relationship other than the one that I’m in right now I really thought I wouldn’t marry that person. With my last relationship, things were really rushed in terms of I love you and us essentially living together every weekend and so with this relationship, I made it clear that I wanted to go slow and my boyfriend agreed as he had just gotten out of a relationship which he said was the longest relationship he’s ever been in which was three months and he thought he was gonna marry that girl and it turns out she had a back up the entire time he was in another country when he was dating her and ended up getting moved to the country that we’re in now. No him and I have been together for a little over three months now and he has already said I love you. There was one night when we were drunk and he said that I said it I don’t remember it but like there have been instances where I have felt that way, but he has crossed a lot of my boundaries and it’s I think tied to his anxiety of what his ex did to him like he wants to push me to say I love you. He wants to show his love that he gets so excited and ignores any boundaries that I have which just pushes me further away and he wants to spend all of his free time with me, but I don’t want that and he’s a very touchy person and I am not an extremely touchy person. I get overstimulated very quickly and I just I don’t know what to do because I do care about him and I would like for this to work, but it seems that every week or so we’re having the same conversation of him saying that I’m not allowing him to be himself because I have these boundaries and I just I don’t know what to do. For clarity between me starting this relationship with my current boyfriend and my last one it’s been about 2 to 2 1/2 years that I was single for him it was about a month to two months that he was single.