I (M22) have a gf (F23 ) who gets angry over little things. Can you give me some advice and share different povs?
Hello everyone, I am writing here because I need some advice about my relationship. I’ve met this girl in December 2025, things moved on pretty fast and we got engaged in February, but many problems have raisen. She has anger issues and she knows it, but can’t stop getting angry over little things, for example:
\- Once she got angry because I didn’t say “I love you” after the “goodnight” text. She said that she was the one saying it more but I was the first and at that moment we were 3-2 for her.
\- She got angry because I asked her to hang out for a date yesterday afternoon and when a friend of mine that I want her to meet asked me to hang out I said that my gf would have hung out with us. She got angry because I didn’t ask if she wanted and that’s fine, I just thought it was a good idea, but getting angry and fight is way too much.
\- She got angry because today because of work she was a bit stressed and I joked about not hanging out tonight. She hung up and even after saying that it was a joke she got angrier saying I had to read her mood.
\- She got angry because once I asked who was coming at the place we were at since I looked too interested since she was a girl.
\- The same evening she got angry because I bought the switch 2 and since some of my friends wanted to try it and looked interested I decided do set it and let them play MK. She got angry because I had to stay with her since in the next days because of work and class we couldn’t meet. I was just a happy child with my new console.
\- She got angry because I always drive and can’t drink alcohol and the night I could I just drunk 1 drink instead of drinking more. I wasn’t in the mood and didn’t want to spend money for alcohol. She said I look old also because I always want to go back home “early” (usually 1 am isn’t enough) because of work or class the morning after (usually waking up at 6 am).
\- Once she got angry because I “disappeared” for 1 hour when I was just busy hanging out or just tired that I forgot to text her that I reached my friends house or that I got home. She said that if I did that it’s because she wasn’t important. I am just a chill guy who forgot to answer. When I don’t answer back it is quite always because it is a text which doesn’t need to be answered.
\- Once she got angry because we both had a free afternoon and I was playing video games, I didn’t think about hanging out and realized it when she asked me to go to her house instead of playing, but, apparently, I had to think about it and she got angry saying that she is always the one asking to hang out. Not true.
We talked about it but nothing changed. After 1 week it went back as she was. I don’t know what to do. I am always there for here, always make gifts, pay for meals,make her feel wanted and beautiful. She says I am the best man she ever got, her parents love me and her brother too.
I admit I made some mistakes, not cheating or things like that, I was just too innocent and stupid to realize I was doing something wrong.
Can you please give me some advice? How can I make her realize it?
I believe this things are way too little to make us fight, sometimes she does minor things that make me upset but I am reasonable enough to realize it.
Every time it happens I just don't understand what makes her this angry, I am always flabbergasted.
Thanks in advance.